Is anyone else's husband/partner like this?

Aw I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm not going to defend his behaviour cos its awful that he doesn't ask you are you ok etc but to see why he acts like this all I can think is maybe in his past he has had bad experiences with confrontation. Like you can imagine if a man asks his wife is she is ok and she yells at him and tells him all the things he is doing wrong, he wouldn't want to ask her again cos he knows what reaction he'll get. I'm sure you're not doing this but maybe other people have reacted this way to him in the past (friends and family etc) and he thinks its better to just have a quiet life than get into any arguments etc. Or maybe he's not good with people feeling emotional, some people aren't sure how to act when others are crying but cos he's your husband he should be comfortable enough to just ask you and know you aren't going to snap at him or anything that would scare him off. Try talking to him and telling him that it upsets you that he doesn't ask you how you feel. If he doesn't want to sit down and talk for a few mins and hear what you have to say, then it comes down to does he want the marriage to work? Perhaps saying that will scare him into thinking "right, I'm married so I have to talk about things in order for us to work". I hope he agrees to even hear you out and really listen to you and then hopefully start doing the things you want. They aren't big things so he shouldn't have a problem with it, he just has to start thinking about your feelings and not just his own. I hope you both can work things out!